If You Are Stuck Dig Deeper
"How’s the business doing?”
“Good. Killing it, actually.”
“Really? What do you mean by that?”
“Uh, well, we usually pay our invoices on time these days.”
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Why Men Should Stop Therapy, Now
When did “talking about a problem” really work? Maybe 1 out of 10 times?
Listen up, men. If you feel like it definitely didn't work for you why don't you stop going to therapy, and focus on solving your problems instead.
Wait...what?
Three important points:
Read MoreInside Your Pain There is Love
“I should have saved my father.”
We've just met Mr. Remorse. Mr. Remorse blames John every day of John's life for not saving John's father. The doctors told John's family that it was his 6th heart-attack, and there was nothing anyone -- let alone 11-year John -- could do.
Still, the black-robed Mr. Remorse, himself a part of John, persists in flogging John for a sin he didn't commit...
Read MoreLetting Go
“I have never been single in my adult life! Not even for a one day!” - says Juliet, my new client. She's just listed ‘summoning the willpower needed to dump my boyfriend of three years’ as one of the goals of our sessions.
“I am on the bottom of his priorities. His career. His family. Drinking with his buddies at the ballgame. Even his dog. They're all more important than me."
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The Abundance of Scarcity
"Don't lie to me! I know you pawned the diamond earrings your mother gave you. You wouldn't have had to do if you didn't spend money like water. Both our salaries are small, and now, you want to borrow money from your father too? STOP SPENDING MONEY WE DON'T HAVE, GODDAMNIT!"
Welcome to a familiar scene from my childhood home. Picture me as a quiet twelve-year-old in pajamas with my ear firmly pressed to the kitchen door as my father berates my mother.
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Inception: Love
‘What is the most resilient parasite? Bacteria? A virus?" Asks Cobb in the 2010 hit movie, Inception.
Cobb answers his own question, "An idea. Resilient. Highly contagious. Once an idea has taken hold of the brain it's almost impossible to eradicate."
Welcome to the powerful world of ideas. While we harbor ideas that support us, many of us are infected with ideas that sabotage us too.
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Einstein's Field of Creation
Image credit: Jon Han, New York Times
- So what is this co-creative coaching all about? What do you really do in a session?
- Our aim with co-creative coaching is threefold: to achieve mindfulness, to create the capacity for deep personal connections and to manifest the client's purpose in life.
- Let’s look at these one by one. First: what do you mean by mindfulness?
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Room to Breathe
“I am just like my mother! At home, I put suffocating boundaries around my daughter and I drive my husband freakin' crazy with my nagging. At work, I've been promoted twice in last year yet I feel like a fraud and at night, I have terrifying dreams where I strangle somebody to death.”
Miriam is a top lawyer in a huge German company. She's on a see-saw; her mood, her productivity, the quality of her care for her children all fluctuate wildly. Sometimes she is over the moon, sometimes she has thoughts of death and bloody murder. Up-down-up-down...
Read MoreThe Voice of the Judge
My bank account is healthy. I have nothing urgent to do for the next six months. And I've got a brand-new Harley-Davidson RoadGlide Custom in my garage begging me to take it out for a spin across the Golden Gate Bridge. Yet I can't.
"Get back to work, you lazy piece of crap."
Meet the voice that has been in my head for as long as I can remember...
Read MoreIs Reality Real?
“My boss is killing me! Yesterday, just like everyday, he barged into my office while I was on a conference call, barking orders at me, demanding better sales numbers. This is after a record quarter!"
This is how John answered my question of "What's bothering you?"
"I cannot stand up to him. I have tried to give him a piece of my mind at least 15 times, but I simply cannot start. I'm a coward.”
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Love vs. Co-dependency
Image credit: Anna Parini
“But I love new challenges! I need to know that I can wrap him around my finger!" says Veronica, a successful entrepreneur in the entertainment industry as she reports on her new love interest. She's titillated, this could be The One for her!
“Yeah, maybe, he is a little depressed. But I know I can help him change and he will be so grateful!" - she claims. After I press her, she admits she doesn’t really know much about him, yet she has already projected a whole world of wishes and desires -- her wishes and her desires -- on him as if he were a movie screen...
Read MoreThe Body is the Subconscious Mind
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